As with all choices regarding my children, I question whether I have made the right decisions. I chose early to limit my children's activities. I felt that it was important not to do so much that the children did not have time to think, pretend, and create. I didn't want to train them to need or expect constant activity or stimulation (We don't do TV either, but that is another blog).
I have seen the downside of overbooking: the "I am bored" syndrome; the little girls who have accidents at ballet because they are rushing so much that they don't have time to use the bathroom; the early burnout; and the mediocre performance at everything. I obviously don't wish this on my children.
Yet, every once in a while I wonder if I am denying my children important socialization opportunities and learning experiences. I hear the ballet moms talking about the parties and soccer league and it seems almost glittery with excitement. I know that my budding social butterfly would love these experiences. My son is not so social but I wonder if he had all these opportunities would he be more self assured?
Recently, I picked up The Parent's Tao Te Ching by William Martin. I was just flipping through the pages and found this:
A Quiet Place
of your children's senses
They see so much they become blind.
They hear so much they become deaf.
They taste so much they become nauseated.
They desire so much they become forever unsatisfied.
They do not come to know
that which truly satisfies.
This quieted my conscience. I bought the book!
Seriously though, I renewed my dedication to moderation of activity. I do believe children need experiences outside the home, but I also believe they need time to learn to entertain themselves, time to imagine, time to find themselves and nature. I will continue to question and hopefully find a balance that is right for each of my individual children. Homeschooling gives us time to find that balance.